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Diddlms: hi

SoftLord: heya

Diddlms: wanna die

Diddlms: heart break

SoftLord: you’ll geto ver it

Diddlms: doesnt feel like it

SoftLord: you’re not breaking up with her

Diddlms: i know

Diddlms: but it hurts

SoftLord: you’ll see her again… maybe its good to
give yourself some distance so you dont lose
yourself in her


Diddlms: i already have

Diddlms: and she loves me too

SoftLord: ?

Diddlms: i mean

Diddlms: my feelings

Diddlms: im so in love with her

SoftLord: yeah…maybe you need some distance,
so you can be comfortable being apart


Diddlms: yeah i know

SoftLord: theres love and then theres obsession
you know


Diddlms: but ive had that for so long jus sucks haveing
her back behind the computer screen

SoftLord: i know, but as i said… you want to be
able to be apart…otherwise you have a
codependent relationship and those never work out
well


Diddlms: yeah i know

Diddlms: your really right bout that one

SoftLord: of course i am 😛

SoftLord: i speak frome experience

Diddlms: your jeremy your always right

SoftLord: there was a point where i’d do anything to keep from being apart from a girlfriend… and that doesn’t lead to anything good

Diddlms: 😀

SoftLord: not always… i just tend to be pretty spot on about human nature

SoftLord: and you’re predictable

SoftLord: not in a bad way

Diddlms: how so?

SoftLord: there are certain ways you behave and certain thingis you want and things you do to try to attain them

Diddlms: who me?

Diddlms: so how is that

Diddlms: im curious

SoftLord: only if you wont get defensive, since i’m not attacking you

Diddlms: babe its ok

SoftLord: you always want attention however you can get it… whether its healthy for you or not… to make up for being abandoned by your dad
(this being my theory)… especially from men… which is why you’re such a tease… you need to have the power over men… you need people to
think you’re special, but you dont think you’re special enough on your own (which you are) so you use your sex appeal and flirting to have people
want to hang around you… i think on some leve you know that thats not really genuine affection, which you could have…but you enjoy the
attention and power still… i think you know that until you take a look at some of the things causing this you’re not gonna be able to have a real
connection with people, so when you find someone you do like you become very desperate to use any of your existing tools to keep them around…
i dont think you’ve really had the rolemodels for a healthy interaction to base your behaviors on (neither have I)…


SoftLord: so you get obsessive and codependent (i do too sometimes) because you really want to be loved for something other than what you put
out there, but you dont really feel like you know how to put something elsee out there, or that anyone deserves to know ‘the real you’ … because
they might not like what they see, and you know they’ll ‘love’ you if you flirt and give them attention like that

Diddlms: ding ding ding

SoftLord: so you become kinda an energy-parasite, needing false attention so much

Diddlms: true

Diddlms: true ture

Diddlms: but

Diddlms: i do like attention

Diddlms: and thats because it feels good to be important

Diddlms: but

SoftLord: yeah but its not like ‘real’ importance…dont know if i’m being clear

Diddlms: i really like this girl… and honestly im willing to be real with her…even if it means she may hurt me

SoftLord: having someone pay attention to you because you spend 10 minutes on how much you love sucking cock isn’t ‘real’ attention

Diddlms: but its worth it

SoftLord: yes but you were saying similar things with Dan

Diddlms: dan is an idiot

SoftLord: and i dont know, do you think you have the ‘tools’ to be real with her?…the behavior patterns… thats not a slight against you, just in my
experience it looks like its very difficult for you and probably very frustrating


Diddlms: well…so far… its been really nice

Diddlms: shes really made me see things i didnt know aobut myself

SoftLord: but you see how you’ve become obsessive

SoftLord: i’m glad she has

Diddlms: that i dont wanna leave her

Diddlms: it that bad<<?

SoftLord: but its like… i do the same thing… go from 0 to 160…

Diddlms: i mean i know

SoftLord: no turning back… its like… desperation, you know?

Diddlms: space is good

Diddlms: yeah

Diddlms: i know space is good

SoftLord: cause you so want it to work… but you dont really know how

Diddlms: but i jus gonna miss her

SoftLord: its like someone who can’t swim jumping off the deep end…you want to do a double pike with a twist and you think you should but you
end up bellyflopping and then flailing around


SoftLord: with the best intentions

Diddlms: so what do u suggest?

SoftLord: well…i think the space is a good thing… but overall i think for your sake its time you start addressing some of these underlying issues
with an impartial third party


Diddlms: cant afford that not at the moment atleast

SoftLord: its something to think about working toward, though… a job with medical benefits

Diddlms: yeah well i dont wanna do it here

Diddlms: i wanna move out here

SoftLord: tis the birthplace of therapy

Diddlms: hehe

Diddlms: your really something

SoftLord: its just… its time, ya know?

Diddlms: but i thought it was vienna

SoftLord: how so

Diddlms: freud

SoftLord: no i meant how so to "your really
something"


SoftLord: you’re right…vienna

Diddlms: you just matured so much

SoftLord: ahh…

SoftLord: i still have a bit to go

Diddlms: i was talking bout u in the bath with dani sat
night


SoftLord: thats random

Diddlms: how special u are

SoftLord: did you mention how cute i am? 😉

Diddlms: hehehe

Diddlms: we we were discussing people

Diddlms: and personality brought u to mind

SoftLord: i c

Diddlms: not shallow shit

Diddlms: ya know

SoftLord: i realize

SoftLord: i was teasin

Diddlms: hehe yeah

SoftLord: i’m just … so used to the "well he’s a
really great guy" that implies "shame he’s fat and
ugly"…at least in my brain

Diddlms: no

SoftLord: not sayin that thats how you meant it

SoftLord: whatever…thats my stuff

Diddlms: well ur not

SoftLord: k 🙂

SoftLord: hey i believe it more now than i did in the
past


Diddlms: well good cause its true

SoftLord: but as i said, thats my stuff

SoftLord: so ther you go…nothing you havent
heard before, prolly from me…or don’t know…
🙂

SoftLord: but i love ya anyway

Diddlms: me too

Diddlms: love me too

Diddlms: 😛

Diddlms: na

Diddlms: love u too

SoftLord: no comment on that one.

SoftLord: oh so here’s some happy news

SoftLord: haras and barney are getting hitched

Diddlms: no way

Diddlms: thats fantastic

SoftLord: yeah

SoftLord: good for them

Diddlms: yeah thats really nice

SoftLord: well done

SoftLord: a year ago you woulda made some crack
about how even ugly people can find love


Diddlms: yeah i know but i thats really mean and they
love each other and that sucks to be nasty like that


SoftLord: right

SoftLord: thats why i said well done

Diddlms: well honey i have to get some sleep early flight

SoftLord: oh yay you’re home tomorrow

Diddlms: i know…yay i miss u

SoftLord: do you want to plan something for
thursday?

Diddlms: yes def

Diddlms: like what sleep over sort of stuff?

SoftLord: sure

Diddlms: he he cool

SoftLord: as long as i dont have to go clubbing

Diddlms: that would be great

Diddlms: well no more pyramid so i dont see how we
could


SoftLord: haven’t been clubbin in months, dont miss
it, not planning to go anytime soon.

Diddlms: i miss pyramid only go to down time cause im
bored


Diddlms: i dont forsee any major plans but how bout
this..how bout we leave thursday pending on account my
family might get annoyed athat i been home like two days
and i didnt settle in and take care of shit


Diddlms: so sound ok

Diddlms: so i dont fuck u over

Diddlms: cause i dont want thatt

SoftLord: would you rather make it a definite on
friday?


SoftLord: i just don’t want you to tell me on
thursday at 5:45 that you’re not gonna be able to
make it


Diddlms: i know i dont want that either

Diddlms: how bout we discuss tomorrow then

Diddlms: ?

SoftLord: theres a dream theater show on
saturday…if i’dve known you were comin back i
would have gotten you a ticket…i only have one
🙁

Diddlms: aw well u goin alone?

SoftLord: yea

Diddlms: sound fun

SoftLord: i know you hate live music 😛

SoftLord: they’re gonna be on for 3 hours

Diddlms: ok kiddo i need some rest chat with u
tomorrow?


SoftLord: no opening act

SoftLord: i cant’ wait

Diddlms: love u

SoftLord: u2…go sleep

Diddlms: ill try

SoftLord: or whatever it is you do

Diddlms: night honey

Written by admin

March 29th, 2004 at 8:48 am

Posted in Old Chat Logs

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