I realize now that I have no context for what to do when I like someone for real. It’s tightrope frightening. and also that apparently
[10:05] me: hey you..can i confess something (nothing bad) before you get swamped with work?
[10:08] her: ok, but whenever people say nothing bad that’s usually not a good sign
[10:08] me: heh…totally not that.
[10:11] me: i’m just confessing that its been a long while since i’ve been interested in a real solid normal relationship with someone, and i’m pretty out of practice, so i worry that i’ll say something or do something that will send the wrong signal or something..because i haven’t had someone awesome in my life in awhile… so, i think we’re doing good so far… just kinda wanted to put it out there that i’m kinda nervous..but in a good way 🙂
[10:11] me: (see, told you it woudln’t be a bad sign thing)
[10:13] me: and now i feel like i’m maybe overthinking and oversharing 😛
[10:14] her: no, don’t worry about it. hold on a sec and i’ll respond when i have a minute
[10:14] me: surely
[10:08] her: ok, but whenever people say nothing bad that’s usually not a good sign
[10:14] her: no, don’t worry about it. hold on a sec and i’ll respond when i have a minute
[11:55] her: ok… well, i think it’s cool that you told me that. you’re very open.
[11:56] me: heh… honesty being a good policy and all
[11:56] her: and i like you a lot
[11:57] her: but there is a but
[11:57] me: ok
[11:57] her: the thing is i’m still in the getting to know you stage and I cant just jump into the next one right away.
[11:57] her: i kind of need to go through a friends period for awhile
[11:58] her: otherwise, for me, it’s just too rushed, or i feel pressured to feel something that i just don’t yet
[11:58] her: i’m just trying to be honest too
[11:58] me: gotcha…totally understand
[11:58] her: the other thing is
[11:58] her: and i know we haven’t had this discussion
[11:59] her: but, in my case, i just go out of something not all that long ago
[11:59] her: it was kind of bad
[11:59] me: yuck
[11:59] her: so i just need to not jump head first into a thing right now
[11:59] her: i just need some time to see where it goes naturally
[11:59] me: my last thing that was serious ended in early may…so pretty recent for me too..tho sounds like you still have some fresh stuff
[12:02] me: i’m with ya, and what i said earlier was totally not meant to put you on the defensive or put pressure on the situation… i guess i just didn’t know where your head was..obviously we all work at different speeds, and I wasn’t trying to rush you or anything
[12:02] me: or rush me for that matter
[12:02] her: no, i mean, i haven’t felt like that, but i just wanted to get that out there now, rather than later
[12:03] me: and i appreciate it
[12:03] me: good to know you like me a lot too 😉
[12:05] me: er…that was genuine, not meant to be snarky