– she is somehow unsatisfied and isn’t telling me
– looking for a reason to leave
– how much to share vs not share (actual stuff vs thoughts that aren’t connected to reality), then having challenging feelings ‘well, i don’t want to start strategizing when talking with my gf, we are supposed to be able to be open and honest with each other about everything’
– tendency to want to cling to the more intense feelings…worry about ‘if its not intense at all times then i must not really like her’
– when in a situation to offer guidance/advice/support, i feel as if i shift into a different ‘self’, with a different way of communicating that feels less ‘connected/in the moment/on the same
– questioning whether my needs are being met emotionally
– layers of feeling bad about feeling bad