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what i’m looking for in an employer

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  • A small-to-medium-sized company whose goal is to be established yet nimble.  One that is resourceful rather than rigid.  At this point, it would take a very special larger company to attract me away from these values.  The word “corporate” does not bring a smile to my face.
  • One that allows for flexibility and internal mobility for its employees to explore different facets of the work.
  • Trust in employees to do their best work, and processes that enable that to happen. ( Things like timesheets, dress codes, etc are examples of things in the kind of environment I’m trying to avoid.)
  • A company with well thought out internal communications and infrastructure.  Knowledge-sharing and project management tools should be de rigeur. (Yes, I’m trying to avoid an excess of interminable meetings)
  • A diverse, team-based and creative workforce. (I grew up in NYC. Having a large group of differing perspectives from people with a similar commitment to awesomeness is ideal for me.)
  • A team that “gets it”.  Internal evangelism is something I’ve had to do a ton of in the past, and while I’m willing to do it, the higher percentage of people who are on board with human communications, creating awesome stuff and bringing joy to all those around them, the better. Honestly, I’m tired of fighting.
  • A company and leadership that would rather make interesting mistakes than no mistakes at all.  A place where “risk aversion” rarely enters into the creative conversation.

Just so you know it’s not just me, Mashable recently posted an article by Soren Godhamerpointing to a Towers Watson study and found “companies with high employee engagement had a 19% increase in operating income and almost a 28% growth in earnings per share. Conversely, companies with low levels of engagement saw operating income drop more than 32% and earnings per share decline over 11%.”  He goes on to list many of the points I’ve noted above.

It should come as no surprise to anyone who knows me that when it comes to human communication online, I’ve frequently found myself just a little out-of-step from the “social media experts”, the Marketing-Focused ROI-Obsessed Marketing Managers, the people who focus on “what could benefit the company in any situation”, the folks who care a little too much about calling every form of online communication “Social Media”, as if that phrase has some inherent value beyond a buzzwordy way of saying “lets talk with people like they’re people”.  I care about creating a great experience for and with people who honor us with their attention. My old manager was obssesed with Social Media Daily because their agency would help his business with social media marketing strategies.

Interactions based on authenticity, humility, grace and humor are the most valuable, both professionally and personally

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February 24th, 2011 at 12:17 pm

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Compassion

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Jeremy Meyers
that was an exhausting day

Laura Meyers
sunday? or yesterday?

Jeremy Meyers
sunday

Laura Meyers
me too – i additionally had the brunch to set up and clean up
i am still exhausted

Jeremy Meyers
emotionally too

Laura Meyers
the brunch or giving away your stuff?
or both

Jeremy Meyers
the day in general i guess

Laura Meyers
like seeing alan’s family in action?

Jeremy Meyers
no. i dunno..lots of people i dont know.. and then having them come and take stuff from my childhood, and being in that place is draining anyway

Laura Meyers
yes – it is draining for me also. for me it seems like an insurmountable mounds of dusty stuff

Jeremy Meyers
i mean, emotionallly…all the stuff that went on there, and the painful memories of living there and stuff

Laura Meyers
there were good memories also

Jeremy Meyers

fine
okay
nevermind
sometimes i just need you to be supportive of me around that kind of thing without trying to minimize it or deflect it.

Laura Meyers
i can’t change the past –

Jeremy Meyers
i wasn’t asking you to
but acknowledging that it was a hard thing for me to go through, and that i have a legitimate right to be drained or uncomfortable around stuff like that is something that i can get frustrated when i dont get from you. thats not the same as wallowing in it or feeling bad about it or shameful or blaming… but often i dont feel like you even feel like its valid for it to still be difficult for me.

Laura Meyers
i hear what you are saying – and I am sorry that you do not feel that i do not acknowledge your feelings around your childhood trauma(s) – I do know how painful it was for you.and that you still are dealing with the pain. I personally don’t feel that a place or thing has that much significance

the challenges are with you

Jeremy Meyers
thats fine, but places or things can trigger emotions.

Laura Meyers
ok – and on top of that the vibe currently at the bond street loft is so depressing

Jeremy Meyers
it was depressing when i was living there too.

Laura Meyers
that is true

Jeremy Meyers
anyway, some acknowledgement would be nice sometimes… i’m not like..obsessing over it every day, but theres a lot of stuff i’m working out in therapy, and i think its important for me to feel like you know that it was a hard time for me and can be compassionate about it.  i’m not asking you to rehash all the stuff that went on or whatever, and i undersatnd youv’e moved on, but it affected me too.

i wasn’t looking for an answer…just something to think about

Laura Meyers

i hear you –

i feel like i was there for you and I did the best I could to help you – your were in a terrible depression and it was very hard to reach you and find a solution – getting you to therapy was the best I could do – and yes of course it was horribly painful for you and for me  — and as a parent I tried all that I thought I could do to help you.

Jeremy Meyers
i’m not saying ‘you didnt do enough and you should feel bad about it stil’.  im saying ‘sometimes things are still emotionally hard for me where they might not be for you, and you might not understand why but id like it if you understood and acknowledged’

Laura Meyers
So when i hear you are having a hard emotional time – instead of me saying look on the bright side – or the equivalent cliche – i should be more empathetic and say that yes I can understand why you are feeling that way.

Jeremy Meyers
yes. or just be aware that these situations can be emotionally charged for me even though they may not reflect how i feel overall or in my current life, and that theres unresolved stuff

Laura Meyers

okay – at my age and stage of life – I realize that vestiges of unresolved issues remain they just don’t have the power they once had

Jeremy Meyers
ok, but we are in different stages.

Laura Meyers
i was just saying . . . like fyi

Jeremy Meyers
i know

Laura Meyers
gotta go to sleep — i love you very much

Jeremy Meyers
ok
thanks
i didn’t meant to be difficult, just something that’s been weighing on me.

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February 16th, 2011 at 12:01 am

Posted in Family